Ohhh this one hits! I’ve been focusing on this so much recently, letting go of the “shoulds” and acting on my true desires. Turns out the shoulds are pretty loud! It is such a process. Thank you for sharing your words.
This was so timely for what I have been thinking lately! I also like my life a lot “smaller” and simpler… learning that what matters isn’t size or reach, but what feels fulfilling and calm and me.
I'm so glad it found you at the right time -- I love when that happens. And I resonate very much with what you share here... yes 🙏🏻 thank you for reading and being here.
"How many of us are making decisions based on shoulds?" - I spent 15 years of my adult life living in shoulds. It's beyond explanation. Severe depression and anxiety, and it almost cost me my most valuable relationships. I love this essay and it hits powerfully for me, and many others I imagine.
As someone who is seeking to write more books, I know an audience is necessary, but building it on your own terms in your own time is revolutionary in our world. "Nature does not hurry, yet all is accomplished."
That quote about nature always lands so deeply within me -- and it's so true in many ways. There are obstacles to moving past the ways we've been conditioned to show up and live, yet doing so from alignment, from integrity, from what feels right and true and good for us, truly is revolutionary. And hard. And worth it. An ongoing practice.
Thankyou so much for this Lisa ! being a 1/3 self projected projector. This felt like home, genuinely Your words feel so warm and its exactly what i need. learning to slow down and unlearn what is expected from me and everything that i was taught. i learn so much from you, from your words, from your being. THANKYOU!!
Thank you for this reflection 🙏🏻 so very grateful. And as a fellow 1/3 projector, I know the feeling well of needing to unlearn so much of what we're told we should do/be/strive for. Ongoing work and practice 🤍
Thank you once again for your honesty and openess. With the way the world is these days it's brave to stand against the flow. Thanking for standing with all of us who are trying to do the same.
Lisa, your language of “right size” was crystallizing for me. On a walk yesterday, I had a similar realization. My heart’s desire is for a slowish life of simple pleasures within a smallish circle of community. I am pushing back against the pull of “should” in terms of pursuing big, exciting life goals and events. And yet, I also wonder where I might hold a little too tightly to my comfort zone and might find new sources of joy and expansion.
I feel this contemplation SO deeply, and it's something I think about often too. It's very easy to use the desire for a smaller life to actually keep YOU small... to mistake a right-sized life with an always-comfortable life. I think there's such a balance to practice here -- to notice where you may actually want or need more, to recognize where you may be staying smaller out of familiarity rather than out of actual desire, to allow the "size" to be fluid and make room for bigger/more/new *when it feels aligned*... so much to think about here.
Ohhh this one hits! I’ve been focusing on this so much recently, letting go of the “shoulds” and acting on my true desires. Turns out the shoulds are pretty loud! It is such a process. Thank you for sharing your words.
So loud! And such an ongoing process (and practice) to keep tuning back inward amid the noise. Thank you for being here.
This was so timely for what I have been thinking lately! I also like my life a lot “smaller” and simpler… learning that what matters isn’t size or reach, but what feels fulfilling and calm and me.
I'm so glad it found you at the right time -- I love when that happens. And I resonate very much with what you share here... yes 🙏🏻 thank you for reading and being here.
"How many of us are making decisions based on shoulds?" - I spent 15 years of my adult life living in shoulds. It's beyond explanation. Severe depression and anxiety, and it almost cost me my most valuable relationships. I love this essay and it hits powerfully for me, and many others I imagine.
As someone who is seeking to write more books, I know an audience is necessary, but building it on your own terms in your own time is revolutionary in our world. "Nature does not hurry, yet all is accomplished."
That quote about nature always lands so deeply within me -- and it's so true in many ways. There are obstacles to moving past the ways we've been conditioned to show up and live, yet doing so from alignment, from integrity, from what feels right and true and good for us, truly is revolutionary. And hard. And worth it. An ongoing practice.
Thankyou so much for this Lisa ! being a 1/3 self projected projector. This felt like home, genuinely Your words feel so warm and its exactly what i need. learning to slow down and unlearn what is expected from me and everything that i was taught. i learn so much from you, from your words, from your being. THANKYOU!!
Thank you for this reflection 🙏🏻 so very grateful. And as a fellow 1/3 projector, I know the feeling well of needing to unlearn so much of what we're told we should do/be/strive for. Ongoing work and practice 🤍
yes!! ongoing process. So Grateful you exist💜
Thank you once again for your honesty and openess. With the way the world is these days it's brave to stand against the flow. Thanking for standing with all of us who are trying to do the same.
Thank you for being here <3
Perfect timing. This is where I’m at now and this was so good to read. I’m really glad you exist.
I'm so glad it reached you -- and I'm so grateful it connected with you. Such a tender place to be, isn't it? Thank you for being here.
Lisa, your language of “right size” was crystallizing for me. On a walk yesterday, I had a similar realization. My heart’s desire is for a slowish life of simple pleasures within a smallish circle of community. I am pushing back against the pull of “should” in terms of pursuing big, exciting life goals and events. And yet, I also wonder where I might hold a little too tightly to my comfort zone and might find new sources of joy and expansion.
I feel this contemplation SO deeply, and it's something I think about often too. It's very easy to use the desire for a smaller life to actually keep YOU small... to mistake a right-sized life with an always-comfortable life. I think there's such a balance to practice here -- to notice where you may actually want or need more, to recognize where you may be staying smaller out of familiarity rather than out of actual desire, to allow the "size" to be fluid and make room for bigger/more/new *when it feels aligned*... so much to think about here.