THANK YOU THANK YOU for this. I needed to read this. I feel similar on so many levels. To show up anyway and how it's really a practice of compassion for the things that matter to us personally. I have noticed that most of my life, I have tried to live up to what others wanted from me and by doing so, I was left not even knowing myself. That made me sad. Trying to change that. Thank you!
It is such a practice of compassion and returning to yourself, over and over. And it being a practice means we can always practice again, even when forgetting happens. Thank you for your reflection here <3
Lisa - todays newsletter felt/sounded like my own voice. Thank you for exposing and validating these human truths we often get ignored/rejected for expressing.
I can relate to this so much. Growing up biracial in the 1980’s when there weren’t many people in my town who looked like me, I felt I had to keep changing and adapting myself to fit in with everyone. I never realized how much I people-pleased until the last few years when I realized I was still doing it. Utterly exhausting and something I still need to work on. Thank you for putting into words these feelings 💕
This is such an important reflection because truthfully, sometimes it IS safer to mold and morph ourselves when we're in environments and systems that don't make it safe for everyone to be their full selves. There's so much nuance and complexity to this exploration -- while it's often a gift to let ourselves exist without needing to please everyone, there is also something to be said about why it's so understandable that it feels safer to do so -- especially for folks who live in identities that have been historically marginalized, where it literally IS safer to hide parts of themselves. Just needed to mention that somewhere so thank you for the opportunity -- and for your reflections here <3
As a person of colour, a body of culture, sometimes safety has meant bending myself out of shape in order to be liked, accepted and loved. I have been feeling the resistance holding me back as it morphs in various forms - exactly as you mentioned through the narratives, stories, judgements etc.
I am choosing to share my heart and work as a gift to myself. I am choosing to show up as a gift to myself. I am choosing to listen and honour my truth - even if they don't get it. I get it :)
Thank you so much of this beautiful, timely and deeply resonate message. It feels like I can hear your voice as I watch the snow falling with grace outside my window, whispering "you're okay."
Grateful to be connected in Truth and knowing that we are walking each other home.
So grateful to read your reflections here. I feel the self-nurturing in your words -- the embodiment of you trusting your own presence as integral and important and worthy of being seen -- even when not everyone will see you clearly. And I admire that so deeply. Thank you for sharing <3
This newsletter is giving me the courage to create and share what is sincere to me, instead of trying to appeal to everyone to be liked, accepted and welcomed. Thank you for your warm response and gently carrying me closer to my authentic expression. A beautiful reminder to continue cultivating the practice of creating and sharing. Because life is a forward moving motion after all. May we all continue to align and practice our truth. ❤️
Everything you write is so beautiful and vulnerable and real- and all my brain goes to is that your writing room looks so warm and inviting in comparison to the stark white on my walls. What paint color are your walls, if you don’t mind sharing?
The time of day and my office being in a spot that gets lots of sun during the day definitely helps! The paint is White Dove from Benjamin Moore -- it's definitely a warm white, which I love! But I will say the rest of my house doesn't always look that way -- my office is a little shed in our backyard so it's prime location for natural light 🤍
Thank you so much for the response! Also, love hearing it is a backyard shed- as a therapist who works from home all the sounds of life can be distracting- so I have been dreaming of a backyard space to work- close to home but with a bit more calm 🤗
I scrambled to my phone when the 7:00a notification came in + laughed out loud when I saw the title of this week's newsletter because SAME! I read it immediately, nodding vigorously the entire time. I've been confronting these same desires recently, which is painful. They've held me back from doing *so many* things + it's not an experience I want to inadvertently pass down to my child. I finally feel ready to let them be there, however loud the still may be, without them dictating my actions. Thank you for the further inspiration to do so! ❤️
I love this reflection and especially appreciate (and feel) the desire to not pass them down inadvertently -- I so resonate. Letting them be there without them dictating your actions feels like the kindest approach, one I am practicing as well. Rooting you on from afar <3
Beautiful Lisa. Thank you so much for the great writing and links. I appreciate it. One thing I started doing recently is taking care of my feet. I live in the Midwest, it is cold and I realized my heels were so dry. There is so so much I do not have control over but taking care of my feet and bringing them to softness was something I could so and show kindness to myself. Applying cream and massaging and thanking them, helped me relax. Much love.
"bringing them to softness" is such a kind way to view that act of care -- and thanking them... what a gift. I really love hearing the small ways others take care of and nurture themselves that sound so simple but feel really meaningful. Thank you for sharing <3
Thank you for these beautiful words, I really needed to hear them! I so often catch myself in the middle of performing and pretending to be someone I’m not, just to gain other people’s approval - so I really resonated with the reminder that what other people think about me really isn’t within my control. I cannot make everyone like me, and that’s okay. Thank you for your writing, it feels like a spark of light to receive it in my inbox every Sunday. Sending you so much love🫶🏻✨
THANK YOU THANK YOU for this. I needed to read this. I feel similar on so many levels. To show up anyway and how it's really a practice of compassion for the things that matter to us personally. I have noticed that most of my life, I have tried to live up to what others wanted from me and by doing so, I was left not even knowing myself. That made me sad. Trying to change that. Thank you!
It is such a practice of compassion and returning to yourself, over and over. And it being a practice means we can always practice again, even when forgetting happens. Thank you for your reflection here <3
YES, "a practice of compassion for the things that matter to us personally." Right there with you trying to change it all. :)
Lisa - todays newsletter felt/sounded like my own voice. Thank you for exposing and validating these human truths we often get ignored/rejected for expressing.
So grateful it resonates -- and that none of us are alone in moving through it. Thank you for your reflection.
I can relate to this so much. Growing up biracial in the 1980’s when there weren’t many people in my town who looked like me, I felt I had to keep changing and adapting myself to fit in with everyone. I never realized how much I people-pleased until the last few years when I realized I was still doing it. Utterly exhausting and something I still need to work on. Thank you for putting into words these feelings 💕
This is such an important reflection because truthfully, sometimes it IS safer to mold and morph ourselves when we're in environments and systems that don't make it safe for everyone to be their full selves. There's so much nuance and complexity to this exploration -- while it's often a gift to let ourselves exist without needing to please everyone, there is also something to be said about why it's so understandable that it feels safer to do so -- especially for folks who live in identities that have been historically marginalized, where it literally IS safer to hide parts of themselves. Just needed to mention that somewhere so thank you for the opportunity -- and for your reflections here <3
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I am so grateful for your honesty! I want everyone to like me, too, and to feel like I add value to their life.
It is much more common than most people are willing to just name plainly -- you're certainly not alone 🤍
YES! this has been in my world for a while, too. loved hearing it and felt validated in this. ❤️
So glad it connected with you 🙏🏻
As a person of colour, a body of culture, sometimes safety has meant bending myself out of shape in order to be liked, accepted and loved. I have been feeling the resistance holding me back as it morphs in various forms - exactly as you mentioned through the narratives, stories, judgements etc.
I am choosing to share my heart and work as a gift to myself. I am choosing to show up as a gift to myself. I am choosing to listen and honour my truth - even if they don't get it. I get it :)
Thank you so much of this beautiful, timely and deeply resonate message. It feels like I can hear your voice as I watch the snow falling with grace outside my window, whispering "you're okay."
Grateful to be connected in Truth and knowing that we are walking each other home.
With warmth and love 🙏🏽
So grateful to read your reflections here. I feel the self-nurturing in your words -- the embodiment of you trusting your own presence as integral and important and worthy of being seen -- even when not everyone will see you clearly. And I admire that so deeply. Thank you for sharing <3
This newsletter is giving me the courage to create and share what is sincere to me, instead of trying to appeal to everyone to be liked, accepted and welcomed. Thank you for your warm response and gently carrying me closer to my authentic expression. A beautiful reminder to continue cultivating the practice of creating and sharing. Because life is a forward moving motion after all. May we all continue to align and practice our truth. ❤️
these things you write! ❤️
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Everything you write is so beautiful and vulnerable and real- and all my brain goes to is that your writing room looks so warm and inviting in comparison to the stark white on my walls. What paint color are your walls, if you don’t mind sharing?
The time of day and my office being in a spot that gets lots of sun during the day definitely helps! The paint is White Dove from Benjamin Moore -- it's definitely a warm white, which I love! But I will say the rest of my house doesn't always look that way -- my office is a little shed in our backyard so it's prime location for natural light 🤍
Thank you so much for the response! Also, love hearing it is a backyard shed- as a therapist who works from home all the sounds of life can be distracting- so I have been dreaming of a backyard space to work- close to home but with a bit more calm 🤗
How beautiful is this!. Thank you so much lisa.
Thank you for reading 🤍
This is beauty. Thank you Lisa
Thank you for being here 🤍
I'm so intrigued by all the tinctures on the website you mentioned. Which ones are your favorites and why!?
I love Anxiety Ally, Mushroom Magic, and Rose Colored Glasses! 🤍
As always, this is right on time. Thank you for giving words to things that be so hard to verbalize. Extra gratitude for sharing my deck ❤️❤️
So glad it reached you, and so grateful to get to share your deck. It's so special. <3
I scrambled to my phone when the 7:00a notification came in + laughed out loud when I saw the title of this week's newsletter because SAME! I read it immediately, nodding vigorously the entire time. I've been confronting these same desires recently, which is painful. They've held me back from doing *so many* things + it's not an experience I want to inadvertently pass down to my child. I finally feel ready to let them be there, however loud the still may be, without them dictating my actions. Thank you for the further inspiration to do so! ❤️
I love this reflection and especially appreciate (and feel) the desire to not pass them down inadvertently -- I so resonate. Letting them be there without them dictating your actions feels like the kindest approach, one I am practicing as well. Rooting you on from afar <3
Beautiful Lisa. Thank you so much for the great writing and links. I appreciate it. One thing I started doing recently is taking care of my feet. I live in the Midwest, it is cold and I realized my heels were so dry. There is so so much I do not have control over but taking care of my feet and bringing them to softness was something I could so and show kindness to myself. Applying cream and massaging and thanking them, helped me relax. Much love.
"bringing them to softness" is such a kind way to view that act of care -- and thanking them... what a gift. I really love hearing the small ways others take care of and nurture themselves that sound so simple but feel really meaningful. Thank you for sharing <3
I held my breath reading this… because, me too. Meeeeeeee tooooooooo.
Then you wrote, “it’s safe to be disliked”, and I exhaled. When you know, unfortunately, you know.
Thank you for your exquisite honesty, Lisa. Your words are a balm and encouragement.
So glad this reached you -- and glad for the exhale. And the "me too" felt sense is always such a comfort -- thank you for sharing. <3
Thank you for these beautiful words, I really needed to hear them! I so often catch myself in the middle of performing and pretending to be someone I’m not, just to gain other people’s approval - so I really resonated with the reminder that what other people think about me really isn’t within my control. I cannot make everyone like me, and that’s okay. Thank you for your writing, it feels like a spark of light to receive it in my inbox every Sunday. Sending you so much love🫶🏻✨
Thank you for this reflection -- "that's okay" yes to that reminder over and over. I appreciate your presence here as always 🤍