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Alexander Lovell, PhD's avatar

Your mention of "happy tears" really made me smile, and yes, I get them too! It’s this overwhelming mix of joy and maybe a little bit of sadness, right? It’s like the beauty of something cracks you open just enough for the emotions to spill out. I often think of them as a physical manifestation of gratitude and pure awareness. Like your body is saying, "Yes, this. This is what it means to be alive and feeling." It’s such a tender and vulnerable thing, those happy tears, and a good sign that we’re truly present and open to whatever life throws our way.

Lisa Olivera's avatar

Just enough for emotions to spill out, yes. Thank you for the resonance xx

Jennifer Nevergole's avatar

I resonate with so much of this, it seems it's in the air right now (maybe always) - how to "relax in the middle", to open inside the not knowing... thank you for adding your words and honesty and imagery to this experience! It is helpful.

Lisa Olivera's avatar

It really does seem in the air, doesn't it? I feel it. Thank you for sharing <3

Ella Young's avatar

I don’t know how you always manage to speak directly to what I am also feeling, learning, leaning into. How?! Also, my happy tears lately have been in any sort of gathering of human beings, usually for art/creative related pursuits, but just the coming together of humans is magical. 💞 yay for happy tears! My daughter also asks often if the tears are happy ones!

Lisa Olivera's avatar

So many of us are moving through similar themes so often, right? I love the reminder of how true that is. Thank you for reading, for sharing <3

Chris La Tray's avatar

I visited Point Reyes on Thursday and was happy to meet Stephen, the owner, in person for the first time. I signed their stock of Becoming Little Shell and made early plans to do an event there in the fall after the paperback comes out in August. I hope we can make it happen! It's such a beautiful store and lovely location. Finally, I just ordered three books from Mount Vision Press because you brought them to my attention!

Lisa Olivera's avatar

Ohh I love knowing you were there -- it's such a special place. If you do come back for an event, consider me there! What a gift that would be. I have everything from Mount Vision Press; all their works are truly extraordinary. Wishing you much care as you finish your travels!

Jackie Knapp's avatar

Did the event already happen? This sounds lovely. I’m about an hour away, would love to support this.

Lisa Olivera's avatar

It was this past Friday (if you're talking about the fundraiser) -- they're such a lovely small press in West Marin. Highly recommend exploring their offerings, such gifts.

Jackie Knapp's avatar

Oh yes, I was wondering about the fundraiser, but I will have to check it out. Love your list of weekly recommendations, I love when someone curates the web for me ;)

Stephanie Needham's avatar

Lisa, you write:

"It makes me want to practice being a soft place amid all the hardened places".

It is like running counter to this world - and it is a way through. I love the theme of melting in the hardened places as I am doing/being this too. As an older woman of 62, I really cannot think of being another way ..... thank you once again for this spectacular writing that is raw, honest, relatable and just downright brilliant. Touches me every time I read your work ❤

Lisa Olivera's avatar

So grateful for your reflection -- I can't think of being another way, either. And it takes so much practice to remember this is how I want to be. Thank you 💛

Kaitlyn Rightmyer's avatar

“All of it allows fragility to turn into preciousness.” There’s been a song I’ve been listening to endlessly lately and my favorite line is “stuck in a storm, do a rain dance.” I just feel like all of this goes hand in hand and it’s beautiful. Thank you. <3

Lisa Olivera's avatar

Ohh I love that -- yes yes. Thank you for sharing <3

Abby Winfree's avatar

I could highlight this entire post and keep it in my back pocket. For now, I will hold onto the comfort of knowing that I am not the only one who needs consistent reminders of what I already know. 🪴

“As much as I know this, the reminder will be needed forever.”

Lisa Olivera's avatar

Ohhhh yes. So glad it reached you. <3

Jacquelin Turner's avatar

i needed this, thank you 💜

Selene's avatar

Thank you for articulating this so beautifully, moved me to tears 💓 taking leap after leap in the dark amidst a fear of the unknown is all I needed to hear.

Lisa Olivera's avatar

So glad it reached you <3

Lydia McDowell's avatar

These shimmers of resonance I feel in your writing, always seem to crack something open in me, Lisa. Like today, after finishing this true & gratitude-soaked transmission, I read Ocean Vuong’s piece, and sat happy-crying at a bagel shop.

Phew, it’s moments like this when I praise that my sensitivity, for all its ups and downs, trials and needs, is in tact. And I praise I’m not alone ❤️

Lisa Olivera's avatar

This really means so much to me -- this reminder that I am always woven with others, that there is a resonance between so many of us, that we don't need to face or feel or do any of it alone. Thank you for the kinship from afar. <3

Marisol Muñoz-Kiehne's avatar

Through true tearing tears,

our grieving trusting spirit.

“OK” to world, life.

...

Without guarantees,

we tend to our young, hearths, hearts.

Do what we can do.

...

We grow our sea legs.

Precious beyond prediction

is what we find next.

Dave Karpowicz's avatar

Lisa, I read of the gift of tears. I too share that gift. D

Allison Roman's avatar

This is beautiful. To happy tears, messy middles, and playing in the unknown.

And these pics are making me miss NorCal right now (moved to NYC last summer from SF).

A Wild Green Heart's avatar

So much resonance in these words Lisa - thank you, from my open heart to yours 💚✨✨✨